Single Parents and Their Daily Struggle

This is a hub that will look for the best and down to earth advice by describing the worst social crisis since the Industrial Revolution.

This unending economic debacle has gotten worst since 2007 and has separated families and altered our own core values as a society.

THE FIRST SIGNS OF THIS DEBACLE

We highlight the first signs that made a couple to think about their relationship and.. to make the hard decision to split up -- some still together, but hating each other. The first sign was a financial distress: we needed more hours to keep up with our credit card onerous debt, and falling 'behind' with our bills. The reason for us to get marry or move in with someone was to share moments and share a reason to be loved...on this freaking Earth. How could you?... have been able to keep your family happy and your boss as well?

THE SECOND SIGN

Unconsciously we looked for the better and if possibly, the best, why not? What I meant to say is... if you were having problems at home, at times thinking of not even getting home to hear your partner's whining about those stupid past due bills. Your mind would've been looking for a way out...which could be one of these: a chat room, a coworker that values you as a person, or a hobby to get the stress out, meaning bowling, fishing, hunting... you name it!

THE THIRD SIGN

This is it. The third sign is coming to knock your door to tell you that you are on your own. Your own self!

- Your 24/7 job will increase probably tenfold

-No more husband/wife to help you around, that has been taken for granted

-Kids will resent the loss

-Money will be scarce, the other partner most probably will be paying another rent

-Psychologically will be a deep blow to you and your kids. Happened to us as kids.

-Sleep will be needed but put aside to wrap up the laundry. Groceries and homework from school

-Guiltiness, remorse, blaming probably God.

Now, if you have a mom or grandma around, you will get a break 'on and off,' but if you are on your own...you will get burnt out. Not talking to you Casey Anthony!! Gees!

Believe or not, kids will need counseling along the way. You know why? They will hardly trust anyone, as they did... before dad or mom left.

Best solutions in short time?

Join a chatline to speak your mind out and share it with someone. Is free and you just let the word out! That doesn't mean you have to give very personal information.

If you are lucky, join a Church that will help you with babysitting your kids, and some brothers and sisters that will help you move or go to see you kids in case you end up at the hospital. God forbid!

Where to find another person of quality for you and your future? Is hard, i'm telling you that! You know it, we know it. But here is the tip: Charity organizations, Churches again and... probably shopping around Walmart. Your heart will know if you did find her/him. Not suggesting a trip to Florida; is too expensive and might end up in the heart of some hurricane. Chatlines are full of liars unless. again, you wanna be heard and spend sometime after your kids went to bed.

WHAT ABOUT IF MY PARTNER WANTS TO COME BACK?

Beware, just look in the eye of the beholder. Once they left, that means they are free to do it again. Main reason that they came back to you? He/she was dumped back to you...due to his/her annoying snore, that he stoically took in for granted and for the sake of love. A good sign to look for is... he or she is getting closer to your kids, even if you are out of the picture...for sometime. Love has been hurt, remember? Was his/her loss....that's what you said.

WHAT ABOUT MY KIDS?

Actually being single is safer than looking for a troublemaker. If a guy is still single after certain time...either he is not good for relationships or he is a player..same thing on the female counterpart. Single parents have to redefine priorities and goals. Remember, their scholarship might help if they make good grades; the driving lessons for them and all things involved in being a single parent. You have taken that extra load from life.

WHAT ABOUT ME?

As I said before, look for a hobby or go back to school. Another thing that is rewarding..and believe me it happened to me, help others. Help the elderly...see how I make my math tutorials? Is just a help from my heart. And I get blessed in my job and in my own self.